“I do not conquer, I submit” – Giacomo Casanova

It becomes truer with each step of the journey.

There is no conquer. This is not arm wrestling, this is not war. Her love cannot be taken. It must be given.

You gain her love by giving love. The true master flows like water in any situation. He guides the relationship towards meaningful, open, emotional, vulnerable moments. Moments he genuinely enjoys sharing with her, because those are the stuff of life. This is a dance.

Be curious. Be honest. Be willing to have your heart broken. Go for the ones that truly rock you off the back of your heels.

To Robin

To laugh.

To yell, to whisper, to sing and dance.

To play a character. To put on an accent, a costume, a mannerism. To play a genie, a doctor, a professor, a husband.

To play yourself.

To spark in the eyes of children as well as adults.

To have something to say about everything.

To to be funny, to be hairy, to be an everyman, to be a superman, to be an old lady when the role calls for it.

To swear, to pause, to stare, to blink. To breathe, to wonder, to challenge.

To inspire, to listen.

To live.

 

How to be a photographer in no easy steps

It’s as simple and impossible as looking at light. Our eyes see light, but our brains see objects. If you can turn off your brain, and just see light, you’re halfway to being a great photographer.

Light is soft in the early morning. Its color changes throughout the day, from cool to warm, to cool again. It bathes faces and bounces around rooms. When you see only light, objects become shapes and blobs that move over each other. Roads become two-dimensional lines. Reflections appear in unlikely places.

Then you’re seeing like a camera. And then you can take a photo!