“Our relationship doesn’t work because I met my girlfriend at a weird point in my life.”
“My job is hard because I was never trained right.”
Excuses, all of ‘em. One day you realized your relationship is weird, or that your job is hard, or whatever, then you looked for excuses that people at parties would accept when you tell them about your life.
Look, it was your personality, your own weakness and pessimism, that made you initially accept that your relationship wasn’t working or that your job was hard. These aren’t inevitable conclusions.
Most people are full of shit.